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consequences of heeding to a partner who is against ‘birth Control’

consequences of heeding to a partner who is against birth Control

The family size is one of the most worrisome issue in the world today.

So many of us get it so wrong with the idea of number of children to resource. While some couples believe that continuous pregnancy is what keep the husband and wife connection strong overtime others carry religious believe even to a destructive level in marriage.

This is an advice for both groups.

If you are a woman who thinks by getting pregnant every year for your husband keeps you close together, then you have just constructed a destructive path for yourself. Let’s be frank here, nothing keeps a man tied to a woman, only God does! So many men do not keep the believe that they should really keep along with their growing children. Often times women single-handedly raise children.

That you even keep getting pregnant and growing, worn-out, ugly and disorganized put the man you are trying to hold, off from you. That aside, Have you thought of your health? What if you die during this yearly birth thing, who will look after your children? While it is really true that it is almost impossible to see someone, who will truly look after your children when you die.

what if your husband leaves you and the children? (which is very possible) how will you be able to take care of this children properly that they wont’ turn around and hate you when they grow up to life of constant unfulfilled wants.

Having lots of children is no child’s play. You take care of a child till you actually drop dead. No matter how old a child is, they need their parent. Have you thought of what use, you will become when you have children who constantly are in need, and you really can’t do anything for them because you are disabled. So many children in the world today fail to be useful because they did not have the moral and financial back up parents ought to provide.

Even when we witness how decision’s like this played over time, still most 21st Century parents don’t get to do better than our grandparents. Our grandparents who gave birth to so many children with the hope that they will in turn take care of them. Our grandparents who believe children are wealth even when they didn’t send them to school. Our grandparents who can’t wait to marry out their girl child so that she becomes one mouth less. So, she can bring money for the family.

Forgetting that marriage  is a challenge and test for some. Also forgetting that some daughters need their parents most in marriage.

If you are the man who is in a relationship with a woman who keeps having children when it is clearly becoming risky and dangerous, then, know that this risk will be carried by all, including the child who will be born into a life of complete risk. Be wise and man-up with your decision.

Are you the woman who heads to a husband who says no “birth control”, then, know that such men suffer from low ego and inferiority complex which sooner they will overcome and want a life different from what they have with you- by then, what will happen to you? you will be left all alone; broke, with a handful of children and an aging body.

Religious belief

In the second case, if you say your religion do not permit birth control, then let me tell you what I know about God.

God says he will put on no man a burden that he cannot carry.

God will never support giving birth to children who will either die of starvation, illness or become useless or suffer intermittently through out their lives. God also encourage that you help yourself before seeking divine interventions. Which means when you keep having children with the belief that God will cater for them, then it means you are relying on begging constantly for help which God himself does not support and also if everyone intends to keep begging for help to take care of their children then soon everyone will be broke and handicapped.

Most I know, will purposely target their friends or relative with fewer children to ask for help to cater for their children. I wonder if they think they are fools to have fewer children, or they do not know how to worship God properly, or they do not know how to enjoy sex properly. Or perhaps they do not know the importance of children. If they refuse to help you don’t get angry, because few 21st century parents know the importance of resources to children. Their resources are kept to better their lives and their children, which is a great decision.


Children are divine blessing. How we plan them, how we prepare for them while relying on divine interventions to keep them alive and safe matters.

Self discipline, life purpose and self-worth all play a role in the quantity and quality of children every parent desire to have.

Grow a large family only when you are emotionally and mentally ready for them.

Countless parents are out there praying for children. Most of them are buoyant enough to better the life of a child. It will be a wise decision to give out a child you can’t look after for adoption, rather than allow them wallow in endless poverty.

So, what do you think? What category do you fall?

Those with our grandparents or the 21st Century parents. While I strongly believe that our self-worth holds strong when we decide to take control of our lives and not rely on someone or our partners to run it even to a destructive result.

So, choose your decision wisely when it comes to a child. Children are not plaything. They are not to be used to test love. They are not to be used to gratify marital insecurities. They are not meant to be used to leverage marital competitions.

And if you do not believe they ARE to be used as such, then, do not allow anyone to make your use them as such.

From the deepest heart of a mother who sees children suffering endlessly.

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 life coach:



I never really told you how much I loved you but after three children I realized you are and still the most beautiful gift in my life.

I never listened to you when you told me to choose a career that I love, though I judged you by being only a college grad, but now realized that education is not the training to read and write but the training of mind to become extraordinary.

Several years now mama, I realize I just want to write, pour my story on paper while I put money in my pocket and I didn’t have to bath and rush to work everyday to achieve that.

I should have listened to you when you said marriage comes only when you have empowered yourself as a woman.

And  years now I realize that you can only live your dream life when you alone make the money that you spend.

We all need money to survive. Life without money is a risk. A life depending on someone is also a risk.

The pride of a woman comes from being able to cater for herself and her children.

You told me not to choose a husband because of his handsomeness and impeccable diction but to choose a man whose eyes, hand and ears I could reach easily.

A man who will see as the apple of his eyes. A man who will be handy to hold me when I am down.

A man who will sit with me under the evening breeze and listen to my crazy sojourn to adulthood.

You told me money does not buy happiness. It comes only from within. It is a measure of how you see yourself, what you give out to others and what you take back from them.

Though everyone should strive to live in this harsh world in some level of comfort, but you told me never to chase money blindly. you told me that money often eludes those who chase at it with a blind race.

You told me I will never get into dept when i shun inferiority complex.

When I love myself. When I love what I see and not act on it. Through I picked your advice late. I can now walk unto a room full of the most costly classy,  Halloween accessories and still feel like the most sexiest woman in the room.

And now I realize that everything you told me was a voice spoken out of experience.

And (hope now that my daughter will not be like me. They will listen to me and not wait to get first hand experience which has wasted my time and DE-value me

Life coach:You told me to have children only when I am ready.

Only when I have prepared my mind and body for them. Only when I believe I can take care of them even without a helper. Only when I have loved myself enough to love whatever comes out of me. Only when I have the found someone whom I believe can take my place in their lives when I am no more.

You told me that the best way to recognize inferiority complex is when you are not contended with what you have.

When you can’t see the beauty in simplicity. When you force people to respect you. When you don’t express yourself for fear of disrespect. When you don’t greet people because you feel you are better than then.

You told me that a garden look green from the other side, but your’s get greener when you come close, when  you  tend it with the colors that you love. ( You Will Never Be Depressed Again When You Understand These 5 Things)

Life coach is;   Dedicated to all the head-strong daughters, who are mother’s now.

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How to start an effective walking exercise?.

How to start an effective walking exercise?.


Yes! Just walking everyday can actually help you lose weight and tone your body. Walking is natural and the easiest form of exercise. You really do not need any equipment or special training

How to start an effective walking exercise is actually just a few steps ahead.

all you need is;

A good pair of comfortable sport shoes.

Comfortable clothing. 










A good meal plan.

Fitness band.

Discipline and consistency

How long to walk every day to notice a significant weight loss?

We have been generally advised to aim for a brisk walk of about 30 to 90 minutes for most days in a week to notice a significant weight loss. You can aim to walk more on some days and less on other days, but the subtotal walk time for every week should be at least 150 minutes (Approx. 2.5 hours).

One should endeavor to walk fast enough to be in your moderate-intensity exercise zone at 60 to 70 percent of your maximum heart rate. You can use a good fitness band to monitor your heart rate to ensure you are exercising at a moderate intensity.

If you intend starting a walk exercise, consider trying shorter period of walking and steadily build up your walking time. But try not to skip more than one or more days in a row as consistency is necessary for burning calories and improving your metabolism. Now the next question is;

What can you expect from a good walk plan?

According to the 21st century health care U.S, you will expect to see the following changes from a good walk plan.

1.    The loss of fat (not water or muscle)

2.    A firm, healthy, well-proportioned body.

3.    An increase in your metabolism which promotes fat burning and healthy lean muscle growth.

4.    A healthy heart rate and an increased lung capacity.

A healthy heart rate doesn’t need to beat as fast. A stronger heart also pumps blood more efficiently, which improves blood flow to all parts of the body.


5.    An increase energy and less muscle fatigue.

Although you feel tired and burnt-out when you just start a regular walk exercise, but overtime you will enjoy increase stamina and less muscle fatigue.

6.    Reduces your health risk.

A good walk plan reduces the risk of many conditions, including obesity, health diseases, high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, metabolic syndrome, stroke, osteoporosis and certain types of cancer.


7.    Helps you live longer.

Studies show that people who participate in regular aerobic exercise live longer than those who don’t exercise regularly.

8    Walking improves both leg strength and toning.

Walking preserves lean muscle mass while helping you lose unwanted fat. Though walking will burn calories immediately; it takes approximately 18 minutes for any aerobic exercises to burn fat. According to the physician Katherine zeratsky, R.D, L.D, if you add 30 minutes of brisk walking to your daily routine, you could burn about 150 more calories a day. To lose a pound a week, you generally need to eliminate 500 calories a day. And of course, the more you walk and the quicker your pace, the more calories you’ll burn. So the question is;

 what are you waiting for?

Pick those nice pair of shoes that has been lying dormant and unused and start a walk exercise.

 walk is free, easy, exciting and relaxing.

How to start an effective walking exercise?


A long hot bath burns as many calories as a 30 minute walk.


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Wellness Habits:10 things to do now that you are young and healthy.

Wellness Habits:10 things to do now that you are young and healthy.

  1. Eat healthy.
  2. develop an exercise routine.
  3. Choose a career.
  4. Pick an enjoyable hobby.
  5. Keep a diary.
  6. Get closer to your family.
  7. Stick to a partner.
  8. Plan number of kids.
  9. Start saving for retirement.
  10. Travel the world.










Striving to eat healthy is a must for everyone. Don’t just fill your tummy with food but ensure you are eating what’s right for your body. So know what you eat, how you eat and when you eat. Schedule your meals between eating proteins, fruits and healthy fat. Stay away from canned food but if you must eat them, cook them properly. Eat less salt, sugar, do more starchy carbohydrates and drink lots of water.









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Learning to stick to an exercise routine is an important decision we can make for ourselves. The human body has being naturally wired to be constantly exercised. You can try interesting exercise like running, jogging, bicycling and swimming, and walking too. But if for one or more medical reasons you can’t do any strenuous exercise, then practice walking a few miles every day. Exercises keep our body healthy, well-toned and strong.









Practicing a career is very necessary in the lifetime of everyone. Choosing correctly is also very necessary. Don’t just do random things or stay glued to a job just to earn money, but choose a career you will be most comfortable with. Sometimes choosing a career for most people is confusing and frustrating. So if you find yourself in that category; then seek help and guidance or practice one or more career to see which one suits you the most. Since practicing a career is a lifelong activity, it is absolutely necessary to choose a fulfilling one.









Hobbies are sweet to indulge, After a hard day working, Do something that will make you forget your day. You can try watching your favorite shows, reading a breath taking romance novel or write your story. But make sure which ever hobby you love is truly helping your body DE-stress or you can simply nap in your free time.










A diary is a private note, where you keep record of present and past events, discuss your experiences or to keep track record of mistakes and successes. Some people may find keeping one very old-fashioned but surprisingly most successful people did keep a diary.








As we leave our parent’s home to establish a world for ourselves, especially when we have build a family of our own, one tend to get caught up with a lots of things. There are bills to pay, children to cater for, work to attend everyday and so much more. We simply get really busy sometimes forgetting to reach out to our parents and siblings as frequent as before. So schedule time to call up your family, send surprises and try to stay in touch. Families are wonderful and irreplaceable.









Finding a companion or spouse isn’t the easiest of things. But one can minimize trial and error relationships by understanding oneself first and then take considerable amount of time to pick a partner that suits one. Do not be the type, changing relationships like shoes. Do not enter into other people’s lives to destroy it with indecisiveness and lack of focus. So always take your time to understand what draws you to the opposite sex.









The number of kids to have is generally a personal decision between couples and it should be decided long before marriage. Parenting as we all know isn’t easy. So the more number of children you have, the harder and stressful it becomes. Children are divine creatures but having lots of them vying for attention, food, and financial resources can be daunting and scary. As the wise old saying goes “it not about the number but the quality” and quality can never be matched. But if you are flexible enough and very determined, you can most likely raise lots of quality children. So always stay glued to what works for you.









It is great to start saving for retirement even in your twenties, but don’t feel stressed about it, since you can still save in your 40s or 50s. Just start even if you feel it’s too late “better late than never” – and if don’t know how to start, just go get a nice retirement book and follow the guide. While everyone will agree that “it is better hustling for money while you are young and healthy, than when you become tired and grey.”








Travelling is a precious habit to indulge. The world is big, beautiful and full of differences. And how else will we ever get to know, except travelling? I mean we aren’t born to be rooted in one place but to discover the beauty of nature and its inhabitants.  So travel while you are young and able. Forget about the money spent, for experience is far more valuable than money will ever be.

Feel free to share your secrets wellness Habits. Share your  secret to- do  list that you practice now that you are young, able and completely free. Or share your adventures, experiences, and places you have visited or like to visit in the comment session below.



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