women's sexual health

Women’s Sexual Health Tips

These tips serve as a basic reminder for some useful tips, you may know but unwittingly skip off sometimes.

Women’s sexual health needs to be discussed more often. It will boost our longevity and maternal success.

So many women are still shy about delving deep into their Sexual health but it is also part of a basic knowledge of womanhood.

If you are wondering what tips are the most basic and necessary to boost women’s sexual health, then this 10 tips is a pack of it all.

WOMEN’S SEXUAL HEALTH TIPS

1. Always wash your vagina after sex to avoid smell and infection.
2. Drink at least 4L of water everyday so as to wash bacteria and infections out of your body.
3. Always massage your breast before bedtime or let your man suck it so hard to avoid cancer.
4. Don’t wash your vagina with any kind of soap. Clean water alone is enough.
5. If you’re the type that likes giving her man #BlowJob, try as much as you can to brush your teeth/mouth morning and night, then take a cup of lemon warm water every morning to avoid mouth odour/mouth infection.
6. Always shave your armpits and pubic hairs. They are ugly!
7. As a lady, take lots of yogurts and pineapple because, it helps in making vagina healthy and sweet during sex.
8. Use good pads during your periods and change it when it full. You can easily breed bacterias if you don’t!
9. Take your bath at least two times everyday especially when you’re menstruating.
10. Change your sets of panties and bras always at least once every three months to prevent infection and odour.

For more information about sexual health, pls read this wonderful article from WebMD here

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5 Comfortable Heels For Beginners

Here are my picks of gorgeous heels to wear, if you are just starting out on wearing heels.(5 comfortable heels for beginners)

Wearing heels can be a lot of pain for some women. In truth, heels are a little uncomfortable to wear even with experts. And also these so-called experts did not just get around with being great with heels, they practiced and discovered tips and tricks that helps them get comfortable in them.

But for beginners, and all those who intend to start out on wearing heels, you can pick some basic heel types to practice before hitting on the regular stilettos.

Here are 5 comfortable heels for beginners that are easy to use and gorgeous.

They are not just easy to wear but can make you drop-dead gorgeous if properly styled.

1.  Wedge heels

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Wedges are great picks for women who are just starting out on wearing heels or who do not really like to wear the regular heels but wish to have an elevated look.

Unlike other heels, wedges are elevated with their weight equally distributed throughout the shoes, making them comfortable to work in.

Fashion tip

Wedges can be worn with any kind of dress.

2.   Platform heels

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Platform heels can in some case be mistaken for wedges because they somehow share a chunky look. But platforms are different because they have a chunky front and a very thick heels while wedges have no heel demarcation at all.

They are well balanced and very comfortable to walk. I particularly do not feel  comfortable with regular heels but i find platforms really comfortable.

Fashion tip 

Platform heels are perfect with well fitted dresses or bodycons.

3    Espadrille heels

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Espadrille shoe types have been in vogue for a very long time and they intent to stay that way.

The shoe has a thick elevated base usually made of fibers and an upper part made of either leather or cloth. They look almost like wedges and can easily be classified as one. 

Fashion tip

Espadrilles shoes match lots of modern dresses and can be worn on official or unofficial outing.

4    Fantasy heels

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This type of heels can be used on days you wish to go really wild and outlandish with your style.

The shoe became a trend with celebrities like lady gaga who seem not to get enough of it.

Fashion tip 

The shoe can be won with shorts, jeans, body-cons or flexible gowns.

5     Comma heels

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The Comma heels have also been a long time trend that still remain in Vogue. 

They are usually a first pick for some celebrities or regular women who wish to be on heels but on shorter ones.

The shoes is not as stylish as regular heels but some women have them as their go-to for parties or slaying on the red carpet.

Fashion tip

I hope these tips are useful to you in your heels training journey? 

 If you love them; pls. do not forget to share.

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Depression

 You Will Never Be Depressed Again When You Understand These 5 Things

Defined among other ways as feelings of severe despondency and dejection, depression weighs many minds down, breaks courage and self-assurance and keeps lots of people unhappy. The canker also noxiously hurls insecurity at its victims. Given the foregoing pernicious effects, I have decided to share these 5 things to ensure you never get depressed again.

Causes of Depression

Before we lurch into the linchpin, let’s touch upon the causes of depression.

While MayoClinic.org puts it that it’s not known exactly what causes depression, the thorn can be traced to factors such as:

  1. Dissatisfaction
  2. Pressure or stress
  3. Loss (the death of a loved one, for example)
  4. Misconception about oneself
  5. Tedium or boredom
  6. Hormonal changes (menstrual cycles, pregnancy, for example) etc.

Symptoms of Depression

The symptoms of depression include the following:

  1. Reduced appetite and weight loss or increased cravings for food and weight gain
  2. Tiredness and lack of energy, so that even little tasks are found tiring
  3. The presence of anxiety, agitation and/or restlessness
  4. Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches
  5. Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things
  6. Frequent or recurrent thoughts of death, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts or suicide
  7. Sleep disturbances, including insomnia or sleeping too much
  8. Slowed thinking, speaking or body movements
  9. Feelings of sadness, tearfulness, emptiness or hopelessness
  10. Loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities, such as sex, hobbies or sports
  11. Angry outbursts, irritability or frustration, even over small matters
  12. Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, fixating on past failures or self-blame

5 Things You Must Know To Keep Depression Away

Having established the foregoing, let’s now divulge the five things that would help you maintain depression under your feet, inert.

1. Understand that no one has it all.

People feel depressed because they feel they are the only ones facing end-of-the world challenges. But everyone has challenges. There’s no one who has everything they want. Where wealth is abundant, fear of security creeps in. And where there’s lack of it, there’s insecurity. This is why the poor are easily intimidated. If you are lucky to be blessed with one good thing; you would find that you lack another. Some people are wealthy but you have challenges with health. You may have good health but no money at all. Challenges is part of life. Given life’s complexity, we always experience one challenge or another. Added, we are always wanting of something. Clearly, Abraham Maslow’s Needs theory shows that is a wanting being.

Only those who persevere and are resilient enough, ever go past conquering the everyday challenge. Be up and doing. Success is lots of hard work and challenges in life never ends. Given the foregoing, do not indulge in thinking or worrying because of the things you’ve not yet have.

2. No one is without a flaw

No one is 100% better than the next person and no one’s perfect. No person comes in a complete package. You may lack what another has. You may think you are not pretty but you are intelligent and most of those pretty ones you envy, wouldn’t be as intelligent as you are. Everyone has a flaw. No one is ever perfect. In this way, there is really no need to feel dissatisfied over anyone’s feature or success. Some may be blessed with lots of success but those success do come with lots of challenges an ordinary unsuccessful person cannot handle. Be content and easy on yourself.

3. Success requires a lot of work

Know that, while someone is spending time wallowing in self-pity and anger, someone somewhere is having sleepless night trying new things or trying to meet a target achievement. Understand that those people, who you envy, actually didn’t become successful overnight. They worked tirelessly day and night, taking random risks until they hit a goldmine.

Success comes with lots of sleepless night. Success comes with a focus and determined mind. You need to learn how to be mentally strong. Successful people may try and fail countless times but they never relent. They kept trying and they never allow themselves to be bullied or allow failure anxiety to take over them.

4. Life with a focused goal has no place for depression

Everyone in life should have a focused goal. Map out a life-goal and work tirelessly until it materializes. When you keep your mind focused on your life goals, it would help you keep pushing and you become so busy you won’t even realize how time roll off. Twelve hours become too short and you wish the day gets longer.

At the end of a tired day, you only wish to lay down and rest for another goal-focused day. Subsequently you will never have a place in your life for depression to set-in.

5. Find a lover and keep them

They say “Love conquers everything!” Love is a beautiful thing and keeps you strong. People feel better when they know they mean something to someone. This makes them feel special. In a protective clothing love offers, everyone can soar high enough and conquer even the impossible. Love lends you self-assurance, confidence and warmth, keeping depression at bay.

Conclusion

The five foregoing facts should help you against depression. They’ve helped me a lot. How do you feel now that you’ve known them and do you think you’d get depressed again? If you feel you would, ask yourself the question, “Why do I get depressed?” and surmount that thing. When this is done, you’d come out exuberant.

Yoga could also help ward off depression, as it ensures physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing. Visiting tourist destinations; in other words, engaging in some recreative activities certainly helps. Dubai is a happening destination and lots of people visit it today. It is in fact the fourth most visited city in the world. If you might want to visit it, DubaiTourPro.com is a very good blog to guide you as it shares information about Dubai travel guides, things to do or places (attractions) to visit in Dubai, shopping in Dubai, Dubai tour news etc.

Please, obliterate whatever makes you get depressed, especially because the damages they cause are way more than them. It was mentioned that hormonal changes can cause depression. Where this is the case, or where your depressive experiences persist, please kindly see a medical expert.

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5 Daily Life Hacks For The Most Busiest, Late-Rising Moms.

5 Daily Life Hacks For The Most Busiest, Late-Rising Moms.

Real time balancing of work and home for some busy mom can be quite soul draining. It becomes even more harder when you are unable to drag your body off bed at an earlier hours of the day. A working mom has to cook, clean, do laundry, bath kids and get them to school everyday before heading to her place of work. Keeping these type of stressful routines everyday can actually be soul draining. But not to worry, KBH writing has got amazing hacks to get you going without getting burnt-out from stress.

5 Daily Life Hacks For The Most Busiest, Late-Rising Moms.

Here are Real-Time Daily Life Hacks For The Most Busiest, Late-Rising Moms.

  1. Keep a meal timetable

  2. Iron and fold your whole week work dress

  3. Cook meals that are easily microwavable

  4. Do your dishes before going to bed.

  5. Organize your child’s school uniform and lunch bag before bed.

1. Keep a meal timetable

A weekly meal timetable can make your momprenuer life less cumbersome. Map out one every weekends and ensure you include all the classes of food on the menu.

Create dishes that contain carbohydrate, protein, vegetables, fats, water, fiber, vitamins and spread them or rotate them all through the week.

Keep focus on rich but quick fix meals. Add up lots of vegetables that won’t need too much time to be prepared.

2. Iron and fold a whole-week work-dress.

Organize a whole week work dress. Start by putting together head-to-toe pieces you will need from Monday to Friday. i.e. put together matching shirt, skirt, accessories, bags and shoes.

Line them up separately into five categories (Monday to Friday).

These will ensure you spend less time every day with your clothing choice or makeup. If you don’t, you end up spending much indecisive moments dressing up. Naturally as women, we take lots of time dressing up every day.

3. Plan out morning meal before going to be.

The best way to do these is to cook the breakfast and put in the refrigerator or parboil any ingredients that needs extra cooking or slice and put aside any vegetable that will most likely take much of your time in the morning. This is one of the tips that has was made most of my morning less frustrating and stressful.

If I am making veggy meals, I make sure all vegetables are sliced and well-preserved and if I am making any sauce or stew with rice, I ensure they are both ready so I will just  boil my rice and microwave the stew the following morning.

4. Do your dishes before going to bed.

If you are not an early-riser, these tips will really save you from being late for work. Although you might be very tired after the day hard work, but what I normally do is to sleep for some hours and wake up before midnight and do the dishes. The few hours of sleep will ensure you are a little rested and ready to do some other works.

So take the time to do the dishes, slice your vegetables, cook your stew or lay out your children lunch bag.

5. (5 Daily Life Hacks For The Most Busiest, Late-Rising Moms) Organize your kids lunch bag and school bag before night fall.

Clean up the lunch bag, put water into each water bottle or buy bottled water if you have more than one kids. Put clean spoons together with the water bottles and put aside.

Make sure to wash their lunch box or flash when doing your late night dishes. These will ensure that after waking up late, you can easily access everything in one place.

I am a late riser but these tips and hacks allows me to enjoy all the benefits early risers enjoy every day.

Subsequently, I became even more quicker than my neighbor who wakes up as early as 4:00am. The above are sure tips for any mompreneur who is really feeling down with her work-family life.

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7 REASONS WHY YOU WILL NEVER BE A MILLIONAIRE

7 REASONS WHY YOU WILL NEVER BE A MILLIONAIRE.

Some people can’t help wondering why they simply can’t be as rich as their next door neighbor. They often hope to get the same level of success as those they covet. If you fall into this category, then these may be the reasons why;

  1. You can’t take risk
  2. You are too arrogant
  3. You are very lazy
  4. You don’t believe in entrepreneurship
  5. You chase at it blindly
  6. Indiscipline
  7. You can’t bear the success of others.

1. YOU CAN’T TAKE RISKS

Many Millionaires today will tell you that they made their money by a trial and error method. Most millionaires are willing to take the risk to invest their money for a business that others will never even try to think of. You won’t be a millionaire when you have not taken a risk. When you have not tested or sampled with money making ventures. Most unsuccessful people tend to rather enjoy their cash as it comes than lose it on a wide chase of risky trial&failure attempts.

2. YOU ARE VERY ARROGANT

A lot of arrogant people are never be millionaires and if they manage to be, it hardly last long. Some people are very arrogant, they so much hate to take orders from anyone. And if they manage to take an order, they execute it with so much anger and haughtiness. Arrogant people are very choosy with jobs or business, as they will rather not belittle themselves doing a lots of things that would have make them millionaires.

 

3. YOU ARE VERY LAZY

Lazy people can never be millionaires. One needs to be hardworking to make money. Success is a lot of sacrifice. A successful person keeps  lots of rules In their lives. They know when to sleep or wake, when to work very seriously and when to relax a bit. You can’t be a millionaire when you are always tired and unwilling to go extra-miles to fulfill anything.

4. YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN ENTREPRENEURSHIP

unsuccessful people do not believe in starting a business of their own. They only work hard to get a high paying job. Forgetting that it becomes so much better when you go fishing rather than being given a fish.

5. YOU CHASE BLINDLY AT MONEY

I often notice how money  eludes those who chase at it with a blind race. The harder you worked just to make so much money without caring for anything else, is the harder the money keeps getting out of your reach. Becoming a millionaire requires discipline, patience, kindness, some level of humanity and becoming a “giver”

6. INDISCIPLINE

You can’t be a millionaire when you lack personal discipline. Personal discipline with money means you are conscious of your spending habit. You are able to differentiate your needs from your wants. You are able to stick to a budget. You don’t allow yourself to be dwindled by inferiority complex enough to get you immersed in dept. That you can be happy with what you have already and save the rest for a raining day.

 

7. YOU CAN’T BEAR THE SUCCESS OF OTHERS

Some people are just like that. They can’t understand your hard work neither are they happy with a success story. Your hard work piss them as your success depress them. These type of people are the “get rich quick” types who never record a success story. They are naturally manipulative, deceptive, lazy and very haughty. Great men or women with a record breaking success, do not get weigh down but challenged with other peoples’ success. They are willing to celebrate and emulate success.  You Will Never Be Depressed Again When You Understand These 5 Things.

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My painful Experience with severe morning sickness (Hyperemesis Gravidarum).

My painful journey with severe morning sickness (Hyperemesis Gravidarum).

In the later part of 2016, I became pregnant with “my sweet ones.” The twin pregnancy was long, hard and tortuous. I was one of those few women who wonder why some women are so ill and very lazy during pregnancy. Well, since I had a first child whose pregnancy was seamless.

I would judge every mother who will sleep all day or vomit all day as being lazy and trying to abstain from duties by pinning illness to pregnancy.

Come on, I finally learnt very hard when I became pregnant with my sweet ones.

I experienced and got to understand pregnancy from varying angles. I got to understand that pregnancy can change your own body in a way that is absolutely unbelievable.

I realize that not all of us experience pregnancy in the same degree of difficulty, that some women will never actually understand the full meaning of morning sickness gone sour.

Like for real, I remained permanently ill all throughout my pregnancy.

To cut the story, here are the list of A-Z unbelievable things that happened to me month by month during my twin pregnancy.

  • In the first one to three months, I battled unbelievable tummy cramps. Those types of cramps that makes you feel like you have just been poisoned with the most potent poison and about to die. They were so painful I lost concentrations most of the time.

The cramps were followed by horrible nausea and vomiting (Hyperemesis Gravidarum).  My tummy practically wasn’t accepting anything inside it or keeping it. And so my nutrition mostly came from drugs.

  • In my third to sixth month, I lost my great voice. My once envious voice became frail and broken followed by a failing eyesight that keeps getting blurry as my pregnancy advances.

My voice became so thunderous, I could practically wake anything dead if I yell hard.

I managed to keep a failing eyesight as I beg God frantically everyday not to let me go blind.

  • During the 6th to 8th month of my pregnancy, I battled tirelessly with hair loss and Relaxin (pregnancy hormone) that was eating away my bone density.

All my hair seems to be falling off as I was also leaping my way everywhere.

My bones were so frail, I sometimes feared it won’t be able to keep me upright anymore.

  • In my 8th to delivery time, I suffered blastful baby kicks which did really bad things to my stretch out and thinning belly skin. I also had a permanent feeling of the babies coming out as they both took spaces to invaded the tip of my cervix. The pains that shut through me all through those periods was better left imagined.

In my final month, I suffered Anxiety and Depression.

I battled a constant feeling that one of my twins was not okay.

I could not stand to look at my body as it was gradually becoming a complete ruin.

My once great hair all fell off.

My skin was covered in endless spots. Hyper pigmentation stayed glued to me and forced me to romance with it, subsequently a once light skinned “me” became dark skinned.

My voice cracked so bad you will hate to hear me talking.

My knees wobbled, and it was very difficult for me to stand upright and walk.

At the peak of my anxiety, I would run to any house that just birth twins to say congratulation. And I would cry more than the bereaved for every twin lost. But in all, I thank the Almighty God. Who snatched me from the shackles of death and gave me a happy ending.

  •  And in May 2017, I gave birth to two beautiful and very healthy twin girls. In the end of everything I learnt varying lessons.

I valued a child more.

I cherished a child even more.

I understood that pregnancy goes onto a very different degree of hardship for every woman.

I learnt that a child becomes more precious when we have it when we are ready for it.

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HYPEREMESIS GRAVIDARUM SIGNS, SYMPTOMS AND TREATMENT

 

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HYPSEMESIS GRAVIDARUM SIGNS, SYMPTOMS AND TREATMENT

HYPEREMESIS GRAVIDARUM SIGNS, SYMPTOMS AND TREATMENT

HYPEREMESIS GRAVIDARUM SIGNS, SYMPTOMS AND TREATMENT

Hyperemesis Gravidarum is a pregnancy condition characterized by severe vomiting, nausea, weight loss, electrolyte disturbance and weakness.

Many women experience morning sickness (nausea) during pregnancy, which is generally harmless but uncomfortable and goes way within 12 weeks.

Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) is an extreme form of morning sickness.

HOW TO TELL IF YOU HAVE MORNING SICKNESS OR HYPEREMESIS GRAVIDARUM.

In other to get proper treatment and prompt medical interventions, every pregnant woman should be able to different between the two.

TYPICAL SYMPTOMS OF MORNING SICKNESS INCLUDES:

  • Nausea and vomiting
  • Symptoms usually subsides at 12 weeks; sooner or later.
  • Nausea and vomiting that is not severe and generally uncomfortable
  • Sleepiness and general fatigue
  • Breast tenderness
  • Spotting

While the typical signs and symptoms of Hyperemesis Gravidarum includes:

  • Very severe nausea and vomiting that can prevent any food from staying in your tummy.
  • A strong aversion for food.
  • Weight loss.
  • Extreme fatigue.
  • low blood pressure.
  • rapid heart rate.
  • and loss of skin elasticity.

While in some cases or rather in my case I suffered other illnesses and symptoms, like hair loss, blurry vision, change of voice, severe tummy cramps, joint tenderness and pains that affected my knees.

LET’S DISCUSS SOME TREATMENT FOR HYPERMESIS GRAVIDARUM

In almost all cases of severe Hyperemesis Gravidarum, hospitalization is usually required. Some common medical treatments includes

  1. Intravenous fluids (IV) which is used to restore hydration, nutrients, vitamins and electrolyte in the body.
  2. Tube feeding – which is sometimes- Nasogastric; restores nutrients through a tube passing through the nose into the stomach. Or Percutaneous Endoscopic Gastrostomy- which restores nutrients through a tube passing through the abdomen into the stomach.
  1. The use of medication.
Some helpful medication offered by hospital includes:

Antihistamines

Metoclopramide

Anti-reflux

Some simple non-medical treatments includes
  1. Using herbs

Herbs like ginger or peppermint or the mixture of both is very useful in reducing symptoms of Nausea and vomiting.

  1. Bed rest

well in most Hyperemesis Gravidarum cases a pregnant mother naturally is on a bed rest condition because the illness is so severe that you can not work or do anything meaningful all day long. It is also advisable to be cautious of too much bed time as it can cause other issues such as muscles loss due to inactivity.

 

  1. Try acupressure: This is usually done by locating and pressing firmly the pressure point at the middle of the inner wrist. This pressure helps to reduce nausea and vomiting. And if you are currently in need of more knowledge concerning the illness, then visit HER (Hyperemesis Education & Research) foundation.

What causes Hyperemesis Gravidarum

Almost all women experience varying degrees of morning sickness which occur at anytime of the day not only morning. Some tends to rise during the evenings.

The morning sickness and HG is said to have a connection to Human Chorionic Gonadotropin (HCG) which is hormone produced during pregnancy by the placenta. The body produces a very large amount of these which rise at a rapid rate during pregnancy.

Americanpregnancy.org

You are most likely to experience Hyperemesis Gravidarum when;

  1. You are pregnant with more than one baby.
  2. likely overweight.
  3. Have a long history of HG in your family.
  4. First time mother
  5. An abnormal growth of cell inside the uterus (trophoblastic disease) can also cause it.
Hyperemesis Gravidarum is sometimes a long-term issue that can last all through pregnancy with symptoms disappear immediately after birth. Care should be taken when administering any medication as it can cause unwanted complication to you or your baby. In all, make sure to stick to your doctor’s advice and stay close to your hospital.

SOURCE:  – www.hyperemesis.org

https://www.healthline.com/health/hyperemesis-gravidarum

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 consequences of heeding to a partner who is against birth Control

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consequences of heeding to a partner who is against ‘birth Control’

consequences of heeding to a partner who is against birth Control

The family size is one of the most worrisome issue in the world today.

So many of us get it so wrong with the idea of number of children to resource. While some couples believe that continuous pregnancy is what keep the husband and wife connection strong overtime others carry religious believe even to a destructive level in marriage.

This is an advice for both groups.

If you are a woman who thinks by getting pregnant every year for your husband keeps you close together, then you have just constructed a destructive path for yourself. Let’s be frank here, nothing keeps a man tied to a woman, only God does! So many men do not keep the believe that they should really keep along with their growing children. Often times women single-handedly raise children.

That you even keep getting pregnant and growing, worn-out, ugly and disorganized put the man you are trying to hold, off from you. That aside, Have you thought of your health? What if you die during this yearly birth thing, who will look after your children? While it is really true that it is almost impossible to see someone, who will truly look after your children when you die.

what if your husband leaves you and the children? (which is very possible) how will you be able to take care of this children properly that they wont’ turn around and hate you when they grow up to life of constant unfulfilled wants.

Having lots of children is no child’s play. You take care of a child till you actually drop dead. No matter how old a child is, they need their parent. Have you thought of what use, you will become when you have children who constantly are in need, and you really can’t do anything for them because you are disabled. So many children in the world today fail to be useful because they did not have the moral and financial back up parents ought to provide.

Even when we witness how decision’s like this played over time, still most 21st Century parents don’t get to do better than our grandparents. Our grandparents who gave birth to so many children with the hope that they will in turn take care of them. Our grandparents who believe children are wealth even when they didn’t send them to school. Our grandparents who can’t wait to marry out their girl child so that she becomes one mouth less. So, she can bring money for the family.

Forgetting that marriage  is a challenge and test for some. Also forgetting that some daughters need their parents most in marriage.

If you are the man who is in a relationship with a woman who keeps having children when it is clearly becoming risky and dangerous, then, know that this risk will be carried by all, including the child who will be born into a life of complete risk. Be wise and man-up with your decision.

Are you the woman who heads to a husband who says no “birth control”, then, know that such men suffer from low ego and inferiority complex which sooner they will overcome and want a life different from what they have with you- by then, what will happen to you? you will be left all alone; broke, with a handful of children and an aging body.

Religious belief

In the second case, if you say your religion do not permit birth control, then let me tell you what I know about God.

God says he will put on no man a burden that he cannot carry.

God will never support giving birth to children who will either die of starvation, illness or become useless or suffer intermittently through out their lives. God also encourage that you help yourself before seeking divine interventions. Which means when you keep having children with the belief that God will cater for them, then it means you are relying on begging constantly for help which God himself does not support and also if everyone intends to keep begging for help to take care of their children then soon everyone will be broke and handicapped.

Most I know, will purposely target their friends or relative with fewer children to ask for help to cater for their children. I wonder if they think they are fools to have fewer children, or they do not know how to worship God properly, or they do not know how to enjoy sex properly. Or perhaps they do not know the importance of children. If they refuse to help you don’t get angry, because few 21st century parents know the importance of resources to children. Their resources are kept to better their lives and their children, which is a great decision.

KEEP IN MIND

Children are divine blessing. How we plan them, how we prepare for them while relying on divine interventions to keep them alive and safe matters.

Self discipline, life purpose and self-worth all play a role in the quantity and quality of children every parent desire to have.

Grow a large family only when you are emotionally and mentally ready for them.

Countless parents are out there praying for children. Most of them are buoyant enough to better the life of a child. It will be a wise decision to give out a child you can’t look after for adoption, rather than allow them wallow in endless poverty.

So, what do you think? What category do you fall?

Those with our grandparents or the 21st Century parents. While I strongly believe that our self-worth holds strong when we decide to take control of our lives and not rely on someone or our partners to run it even to a destructive result.

So, choose your decision wisely when it comes to a child. Children are not plaything. They are not to be used to test love. They are not to be used to gratify marital insecurities. They are not meant to be used to leverage marital competitions.

And if you do not believe they ARE to be used as such, then, do not allow anyone to make your use them as such.

From the deepest heart of a mother who sees children suffering endlessly.

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Is your bathroom hand dryers as safe as you think? Here is what science says

Is your bathroom hand dryers as safe as you think? Here is what scientist thinks.

According to ifiscience, in 2014, a team of researchers from the University of Leeds announced disturbing news concerning the “no touch jet-air dryers” in public bathrooms. The team made a public announcement stating that these air dryers are full of bacteria.

They found out that these increasingly popular device blast bacteria from people’s poorly washed hands into the air and on all nearby surfaces in large volumes which means you can possibly go into a public toilet and walk out of it covered in other people’s germs.

According to the lab-based experiments, bathroom hand dryers introduced 27 times more bacteria into the air than the good old fashioned paper or hand towels and these bacteria spread everywhere at a speed of just 15 minutes.

According to ifiscience, a real life experiment reported by the journal of hospital infections was carried out by Mark Willox and his colleagues who set out to examine how hand drying methods promote bacteria spread in hospital bathrooms.bathroom hand dryers

A diagram explaining the experimental design. Best, E. et al/Journal of Hospital Infection, 2018

The investigation was conducted in 3 city hospitals – Leeds, Paris, Udine, later Italy over a period of 12-weeks.

In the experiments, two restrooms used by patients, staff and visitors are selected, and each was set up to use only a set dryer or paper towel. And every day, for four weeks, air swab samples were collected for each bathroom, then after a  2 weeks pause in collection, each restroom were set again to offer alternate drying method.

The process was then repeated three times. The results from these cultures reveal a greater amount of bacteria in all of the restrooms where hand dryers were being used. The most dramatic difference were seen between the surface of the jet dryer itself and all the surface of the paper towel dispenser.

The reporter stated that in Udine, the dryer was covered in 100 times more bacteria, 33-fold higher in Paris and 22 folds in Leeds.

And in the UK restroom, the deadly methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus Aureus (MRSA) bacterium was found three times more frequently in the bathroom using jet dryer, than those offering paper towels. Other penicillin- resistant bacteria like the Cephalosporin (known as ESBL- producing organism) and species of pathogenic enterococci here also found in those restrooms.

While in Parisian and Italian hospitals, few pathogenic or drug resistant bacteria were encountered with each hand drying methods.

The team concluded the experiments by stating that “electric hand dryers are not suitable to be used in clinical setting and as such all existing (NHS) infection control building guidance needs to be amended and strengthened”. Willox team. They added that, there is no justification for their use in any public setting given the risk they present.

Based on earlier research, some French health officials, recently updated their guidelines and discourage use of hand dryers in clinical wards.

Willox explained that the troubles starts because some people do not wash their hands properly, in effects the dryer creates aerosol that contaminates the toilet room, the dryer itself, sinks, floors and other surfaces. And this is also dependent on where the dryer is sited.

He however concluded that paper towels absorb water and microbes left in the hands and if they are to be disposed of properly, then there is a lesser chance of air contamination which them.

WRAP UP

In my own little conclusion, I think everyone should be patient enough to wash their hands properly after easing themselves. I mean we could really enjoy the comfort hand dryers provide if we do.

I really love hand dryer and I believe, “everyone does”

It will be such a shame if it becomes a health hazard because of some avoidable carelessness.

And the changes, starts from “you”

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Life coaching: 20 most powerful life lessons

 

Life coaching: 20 most powerful life lessons are those Secret Lessons I have learnt in my three decades alive.

life lessons are very important to everyone of us. It not only coaches but inspires. Follow me on Instagram as i pitch the best of life experiences.

We are all a composition of our experiences.

They are

  1.  It doesn’t really matter, how we grow up, how serious we like to look, how we see ourselves, how others see us. What counts is the luck that nature has folded into us, propelling us towards success.
  2. Starting off well is not a determinant that you would end off well.
  3. There is a power in what we say and sometimes the directions of our thought.
  4. Taking life too serious, stress and break you.
  5. Sometimes we grow up hating or criticizing our parents but for some unexplained phenomenon, we end up becoming just like them.
  6. Our hearts can do so many things; like strongly loving someone who doesn’t even knows we exist.
  7. Avoid doing evil to anyone, not because you are too nice or a weakling, but because it serves as a rite of passage into a less complicated life. Repercussion waits in your path to ruin you as much as the person you have ruined.
  8. If nature is against you, you start hating the most beautiful people God has paced in your life and then you start loving those who can’t wait to see you suffer.
  9. Life coaching: Bad parents can sire a very well-behaved child. Miraculously God sent some children into this world who naturally need less guidance.
  10. For whatever reasons, our paths always seem to cross with the same people whom we try so hard to avoid.
  11. Secrets, lies and deceit ruins any good relationship. You simply can never be careful enough not to get caught.
  12. Your life might keep opening up bad chapters but being strong and resilient soars the good, successful pages unexpectedly up, so never, ever give up on yourself.
  13. Never be a sticker to ‘first impression matters’, because sometimes the people God sent to stay for good in our lives actually turn-up in an awkward first meeting.
  14. At one time in our lives, you will meet someone who would hate you, even when you have given them so much. They would take everything from you if you let them- but they will still hate you. And you can get to see through this type of people when you learn not to judge a book by its cover.
  15. If you keep cheating on a partner, just because you feel you possess the powers to cheat and still get away with doing so, then you are trying to face-off with the Almighty himself; because nothing angers nature more than you destroying a weaker vessel, you have been chosen to protect and build.
  16. There is always someone who completes and understand us, however the type of characteristics we possess.
  17. Life coaching: Learn to take care of yourself. Self-care is a necessity. When you look after yourself, you feel good and cheerful and only then can you be able to take care of someone else. ( You Will Never Be Depressed Again When You Understand These 5 Things)
  18. Stop trying to chase respect haughtily from people. Just learn to embrace inner disciplined, then respect will come to you naturally and stay.
  19. Don’t continue being a ‘yes’ person. Say no when you need to. Bring out the real you even when it is too late-even when people will hate you for it. Time changes us, mold us.
  20. Stay away from matters that do not concern you. You will live longer.

These are the best of life coaching, secrets lessons I have learnt clocking almost three decades. My question is; what are  your own secret lessons at two, three, four, five, six decades alive? Do share as we would be glad to learn from you too by using the comment session below.

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